Are there issues keeping you up at night? Learn how to let go and channel your energy into more positive endeavors.
From negative body issues, self-deprecating thoughts, or even the opinions of others – we all find ourselves sweating the small stuff. We obsess, over-think and over-dramatise even the smallest encounters creating tension and chaos unnecessarily. There is an alternative to living without the daily mental gymnastics – the art of letting go. And it’s simpler than you may think.
Embrace the chaos
When change is your only constant, it may be time to adopt a new attitude. Your juggle life, love, work, family, friends and all sorts of other commitments. But you know what? So does everyone else. You can’t fight the pace or control the chaos. Understand this, ponder it and accept it. You may not be friends with the chaos, but at least understand that you’re like neighbours who will always share the same street, so fighting is irrelevant.
Pick your battles
It would be great if everyone just followed your lead, and did what you wanted them to do when you wanted them to do it. Sounds perfect, doesn’t it? And maybe at the same time you can bring about world peace, marry Cristiano Ronaldo and save every one of God’s creatures on our great green earth. Nice dream, unlikely reality. Rather than strain to fit people into your preferred mould or behave according to your schedule, be willing to accept others for who they are and respect their differences. If you do this, you will begin to let the lesser important battles fade away, and you’ll have the time and energy to tackle the big struggles when they come along. And they will come along.
Take what you need, toss what you don’t
You’ll always come across someone who knows better, has a better way, and is quite happy to tell you how and what to do. But not all advice is good advice or good advice for you, so take recommendations at face value and use them as a starting point for exploring your own solutions. Don’t let the naysayers get you down, cast doubt and override your own self-confidence and determination. In any situation, always try to consider your options when you’re calm and rational. Easier said than done when someone’s stolen your handbag or made a rude comment and you’re aching to scream, shout and behave like a wild woman. Learn to take a deep breath, put things into perspective and calm down before you act or react. So many of the niggly things that override our thoughts in the day or sleep at night are the result of decisions that we regret and wish we could set right. If you handle something the right way to begin with, there will be no need for the self-doubt and recriminations later.
Know what you can and can’t control
One of the most important lessons to learn in life is that you only have control over your own actions, how you perceive the actions of others and how you react. Instead of worrying about what others will think or how they will look at you, focus on honouring your own standards and ideals in everything you do. You just can’t please everyone all the time, so worry about making yourself happy and the rest will fall into place. It always does.
What will you let go of in 2015? Tell us in the comments box below.