Do you find that instead of chasing your dreams, you’re holding back? We tell you how to turn off your negativity switch.
We spend so much time working towards goals that it’s difficult to imagine turning away from a life-altering opportunity. But for some, it may come easier to give in to self-doubt than it is to believe that they are good enough to pursue their dreams. They restrict themselves due to fear of failure, fear of success or simply fear of change. In the end self-doubt only stops you from living a full and happy life.
Here’s our step-by-step guide to shutting down your inner critic…
Step 1: Stop saying “I can’t”.
By assuming that you’re not able to meet your goals before you’ve even tried, you’re already setting yourself up for failure. So do yourself a favour and steer clear of the negative. Instead, visualise how you’re going to pursue your dreams and how you will succeed. This will give you the drive you need to achieve anything.
Step 2: Take control.
Once you have decided on a goal, write down how you plan to accomplish it step by step. Tackling each task in manageable portions will make your goal seem more easily obtainable. And by focusing on each task you’ll have less brain space to waste on obsessing about things you have no control over.
Step 3: Have a little faith.
Some of the most successful entrepreneurs of our generation started their careers on nothing more than a great idea. Who’s to say you can’t do the same?
Step 4: Don’t compare yourself with anyone.
While a little competition makes for healthy motivation, comparing yourself with others can only lead to disappointment. It’s easy to put someone on a pedestal but regardless of whether you share similar goals with someone, your circumstances could be very different. So cut yourself some slack and instead focusing on your own achievements.
Step 5: Silence your critics.
It’s one thing to battle your inner critic but putting up with destructive criticism from other people in your life should be enough to drive even the most sane girl up the wall. So unless their feedback is constructive and helpful, make it clear to haters that you have no interest in what they have to say. And the same goes for that negative inner voice!
Step 6: Beat the fear.
Fear is the common reason for self-doubt. But by taking yourself out of the running, you’re robbing yourself of the chance to prove yourself wrong. So give yourself the benefit of the doubt and dare to fail. If it doesn’t work out, accept it and remember that failure is not the end. After all, learning to have faith in your self is a great accomplishment in itself.
How do you shut down self-doubt? Tell us in the comments box below.